Why being married does not do a it relationship Expert

Today, it is confusing who to take the advice of the relationship of. At one end, you have three times married Steve Harvey, sell books in lines so long that I was ready to swear that they provide with each copy sold paper Government cheese. Then you have perpetually single men and women who claim to be coaches "connection", but it may all want to little league softball. And the last, and the more unpleasant group, is perhaps why I belong to: the crew "I is married so you should just to listen to what I say!"

Of course, I am not me. I would never do that.

It is the bouquet that will fill your head of sequins and unicorns how if you keep your hair and nails do, learn to Cook, be not too stupid, don't be too smart, be a freak in the bedroom and Betty Crocker in the kitchen and the Lady of pine in the rest of the House, let your man running the streets and take the lead, even if it is in a ditch.

Just because you have a ring does not mean that you know something of ole. Especially if your marriage is like a six car on the expressway pile-up. But conversely, I have the same position towards the perpetually unique women giving advice to their BFF, which often presents itself as the Three Blind Mice going on at the club Friday, Saturday and each third Wednesday.

The best advice, in my view, is given for example and emulation. Admire a couple married who do hate each other? Ask what works for them, then sit a watch. To find a single woman who is comfortable in his own skin with no men through its place as the trains through Grand Central Station? Ask, watch and learn.

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Christelyn d. sise is co-author of Swirling: how Date, Mate and relate to Culture mixes Race and Creed (forthcoming February 2012), and maintains a blog, www.beyondblackwhite.com, dedicated to the women of colour who are interested and or involved in interracial and intercultural relations. She is also the founder and organizer of "No marriage without uterus", an initiative to find solutions for the rate of 72% out of wedlock in the black community.

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